hey part12studios,
congrats on the SE. I've got one as well and I love it. Mine has 4MB which makes it so much more comfortable to use. (only downside is that sometimes shaky screen, but I heard they were like that even when factory new. Well and the fan noise can be aggravating in a quiet environment)
Which Mac SE do you have? I have a FDHD and I'm pretty confident I did not need to care about resistors. But then I know there are various versions of the SE. For example, while I would just pop in a PRAM battery into my SE, I know earlier ones needed it to be soldered in. Also make sure you add only identical RAM in all slots. Anyhow, I can't remember adding RAM being difficult. (except getting those extra-deep screws out from the back of the machine!)
On a side-note, if you're disassembling your SE, would you take a picture of the screws on the backside? I didn't pay attention, so mine got lost in a big pile of screws ... if it is not asking too much :-)
My floppy drive also did not work (click click click and wanting to initialize every floppy) when I got the machine. Solution was to take the floppy out and clean the drive head. Be super-careful not to bend it too much. After that it worked perfectly again. If you keep the dust off, those drives are very sturdy ones. I'd try cleaning before getting a new one.
And about the RAM. I think you can get the faster RAM but it will simply not use its full potential. If I'm not completly wrong (it has been years) I have 120ns ones in mine and it works flawlessly.